tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1453623293785087784.post2314726537115153466..comments2016-06-30T07:48:54.364-07:00Comments on Life With the Grandmas: The Worst Thing about Being a CaregiverAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16685083659035966642noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1453623293785087784.post-46726490582310603922016-06-30T07:48:54.364-07:002016-06-30T07:48:54.364-07:00Misty: It takes a special kind of person to give ...Misty: It takes a special kind of person to give the care you do. I read your blogs all the time and don't often comment but this one touched me. My mom was widowed by the time her mother needed 24/7 care and although she had a brother and sister in the same town all of the daily care fell to her. Additionally she was still working so Grandma would go to senior day care during the day, and like most Altzheimer's patients, would hardly sleep at night, so my mother would be up half the night attempting to keep her calm. I helped as much as I could but being on the other side of the state kept me from being there most of the time. I was extremely resentful of the fact that my mother, who worked so hard, got very little help from either of her siblings and she was expected to be the caregiver simply because her husband had passed away and she was the only one who was single. It got to the point where even getting a haircut was a struggle and I was concerned that my mother was on the verge of a nervous breakdown. She would not ask for help though for whatever reason. You need to take care of yourself. Do not be afraid to ask family members to step up and help you; you are entitled to that help. Also, don't be afraid to ask friends over to visit with you and the grandmas; ageism is prevalent in our society and it is wonderful to watch those with dementia interact with small children. It is just as important for children to be around those who are older. I just want you to know that someone is listening and I know we only know each other through your sister but if I can help or bring my kids over to visit or organize a senior/child tea party; let me know. Lawtalkingalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09781484234843274282noreply@blogger.com